check out the EARLY BIRD SPECIAL!
There’s surviving PDA parenting… and then there’s transforming it.
From burnout and battles to calm and connection—Illuminate is your guide to parenting PDA Autistic Pre-teens & teens.
Program begins May 16th
Limited spots available - Register Today!
feeling overwhelmed and exhausted is a common experience for parents of teens with PDA autism. Illuminate provides tools not only to support your child but also to prioritize your well-being, helping you manage stress and prevent burnout.
“The S.A.F.E. framework we followed inside the Illuminate program completely changed how I approach parenting my PDA child. For the first time, I feel like I truly understand them… AND myself. I appreciated the amount of personal support that I received both from Amy as well as the group. The 8 weeks went by too quickly!!"
Sara L.
Does this sound like you?
You wake up already anxious, wondering what kind of day it will be—and bracing for the next meltdown.
You’re constantly walking on eggshells, trying not to trigger your teen's threat response (but it feels like anything could).
You've read all the books, tried all the strategies, and nothing seems to “work” the way it’s supposed to.
You're tired of well-meaning advice that doesn’t apply to PDA… and makes you feel like the problem.
You’re burning out—emotionally, mentally, even physically - and you're starting to wonder if peace is even possible.
You want to connect with your teen, but their walls are up… and you’re not sure how to reach them.
You’re craving support, tools, and community that actually understand your child’s unique nervous system—and yours.
8 short weeks.
That's all it takes to make a difference in your parenting and your stress level!
As your child enters adolescence, new challenges emerge. The quest for independence, combined with the nuances of PDA autism, can intensify household dynamics. Illuminate offers strategies tailored to navigate these teenage transitions with empathy and effectiveness.
This 8-week small group coaching program is built for parents like you—who love your child fiercely but are exhausted by the daily unpredictability, the constant emotional negotiation, and the deep grief of watching your child struggle.
Each week, you’ll receive support through nervous system-informed education, gentle mindset shifts, and concrete tools.
What's inside Illuminate?
✔️ Understand your teen’s brain and behavior through a trauma-informed, neurobiology lens
✔️ Reduce daily conflict and meltdowns
✔️ Co-regulate more effectively (without losing yourself)
✔️ Build connection—even when your teen pushes you away
✔️ Navigate triggers, burnout, and grief with self-compassion
✔️ Create real felt safety at home—for everyone
✔️ Support your own nervous system as you parent a highly sensitive, often-demand-avoidant teen
Here's what you'll get:
🧠 Weekly Video Lessons
Short, powerful trainings that break down complex neuroscience into clear, compassionate parenting tools.
🌀 Live Group Coaching Calls
Ask your questions, process your challenges, and get personalized support from me (Amy!) and a small group of like-minded parents who get it.
📓 Downloadable Worksheets & Reflection Guides
Gentle journaling and integration exercises to help you put each week’s content into real-life practice.
📓Comprehensive PDA Parent Playbook – A detailed guide filled with practical strategies, scripts, and tools.
💬 Private Online Community
A safe, private space (off social media) where you can connect, share, and be supported between sessions.
💛 Lifelong Tools for You AND Your Teen
Because when you shift your approach, your teen begins to shift too. The tools you learn here stay with you—and keep working long after the program ends.
Amy
Kotha
PDA Parent Coach
Meet your coach!
Amy Kotha is a PDA parent coach, board-certified health and wellness coach, and mom to two neurodivergent teens. She helps parents of PDA autistic children move from constant stress and reactivity to calm, connected, and confident parenting.
With lived experience supporting complex diagnoses like PDA autism, ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and substance abuse disorder, Amy brings both professional insight and deep personal empathy. She knows firsthand that this kind of parenting requires a total paradigm shift—one most of us were never taught.
Through her coaching, Amy supports parents in regulating their own nervous systems, shifting outdated parenting patterns, and reclaiming peace and joy in their families.
$698
two payments of $349
EARLY BIRD SPECIAL: Get one free 1:1 coaching session! Register by 4.27.2025
This program is for you if…
It's not for you if…
why s.a.f.e. works when other strategies don't
If you’ve tried behavior plans, parenting books, or even traditional therapy—and nothing has worked for your PDA child—you are not alone.
Most approaches focus on managing behavior.
But PDA isn’t a behavior problem.
It’s a nervous system response to perceived threat.
That’s why I created the S.A.F.E. framework—a parenting model that helps you support your teen's regulation, reduce pushback and meltdowns, and finally build the connection you’ve been longing for.
S.A.F.E.™ Stands for:
S – Sensory & Safety
Learn how to create the foundation of felt safety that your teen desperately needs—but can’t always articulate.
A – Acceptance & Attunement
Build trust without invading autonomy. Attune to your teen’s needs in a way that respects their space and identity.
F – Flexibility & Felt Experience
Shift from control to collaboration. Adapt your parenting based on your teen’s real-time internal state.
E – Emotional Co-Regulation
Support your teen’s dysregulation without getting pulled into emotional chaos. Learn to regulate yourself, first.
This isn’t about fixing your child.
It’s about seeing them clearly, supporting them wisely, and building a home where both of you can exhale.
And inside Illuminate, you won’t just learn the S.A.F.E.™ framework—you’ll have guided support to live it, integrate it, and return to it again and again.
Here's what others are saying
"Amy’s support came at a critical time for our family. Her deep understanding of PDA gave us the tools and confidence we desperately needed."
Jen M.
"We gained more insight, emotional support, and practical help from Amy than from years of other services. She just gets it."
Sue C.
Bonus offer
Reserve your seat by April 27th and get a 1:1 coaching session at no additional cost!
You don’t want to miss out on this offer, regularly a $175 value.